Memorial Day weekend is coming up, which means barbeques, sitting poolside, and honoring those who have served in the US armed forces. Holidays can be hard for individuals struggling with an eating disorder, disordered eating patterns, and/or body image issues. Food is a large part of celebrating holidays in our culture! Typically in the summertime, people like to grill out which means appetizers, burgers, hot dogs, casseroles, and dessert. This can be a stressful time for individuals with an eating disorder or history of an eating disorder as many of these foods fall in the category of “fear foods”. Summer holidays are often spent at the pool, lake, beach, or just outside — which typically means a swimsuit! This can be anxiety provoking in itself. Check out my blog post on Swimsuit Season if this is something you or a loved one is struggling with.
So how can we still attend these events without feeling triggered and actually enjoy ourselves? First, you do not have to over-indulge because it is a holiday. Plate your meal and make sure you are including a variety of foods. Be mindful of your hunger/fullness cues. You are allowed to enjoy a slice of cake or cookie because it tastes good! Also, it is very normal to have a burger or hot dog with a couple of sides! Remember, one meal will not cause you to gain weight. Eating disorders love to isolate. If you are thinking about skipping that barbeque and swim party, ask yourself why? The more you give into your eating disorder the more power you are giving it. Lastly, enjoy yourself. Practice being in the present moment. If you are worried about being in a swimsuit, know you are not alone. As a society, we hyperfocus on what others will think of us when in reality most people are more focused on themselves. With that being said, avoid body comparing — it is not helpful for anyone! If this is something you are worried about, talk to someone about it. This could be your therapist, dietitian, or supportive friend/family member.
Holidays are meant to be enjoyed. You are allowed to go to that party, eat what you (not your eating disorder) wants, and relax because you are more than deserving. As you embrace the joy of the season, remember that holiday stress management strategies can help you navigate the busyness and expectations that often come with this time of year. Prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries can make a significant difference in how you experience the holidays. Focus on what truly brings you happiness and fulfillment, and let go of what weighs you down.
Authored by Emily Baum, M.S., RDN, LD
