A Love Letter Written For You


Dear You, 

“How are you?” 

These are the three most purposeless words in the world of communication. First, the person asking doesn’t really want to know, and second, the person responding doesn’t tell the truth. Every time this question comes up in passing, what unfolds is a lost opportunity and meaningless exchange with zero connection.

Why do I drone on about how useless the question, “how are you” is? Because you DESERVE to have someone genuinely care about HOW you are DOING. If you’re wondering what treatment or recovery is like and where to start, you’re in the right place. If you’re hoping to help a loved one transform their way of thinking and how they perceive themselves, keep on reading. 

So, how are you? 

How are you feeling right now, at this moment? What emotions are rampaging through your mind? Do you feel numb, confused, or anxious? How are you dealing with everyday responsibilities? How are you managing your eating habits and taking care of your mental health?

I hope you take the time to mull over these questions. Then, take out a notepad, or your phone, and write down your answers. At Eating Disorder Solutions, we share a deep foundation of genuine concern for new, current, and past clients. Even right now, I’m trying to reach someone, anyone, who may be struggling with an eating disorder. Whether or not your condition is newly developed, currently developing, or you’re at rock bottom, we need you to know that you’re not stuck there. We are not trees – our roots don’t attach to the soil we decide to grow on. You can up-root yourself at any time and begin a new journey. 

I’ve seen eating disorders in real time. I’ve seen my best friend look in a mirror for far too long – not because she was having a vain moment – but because she was questioning her worth. I’ve found the laxatives in the same place in the corner of her cabinet, even when she said she would get rid of them months ago. I’ve seen the happiness drain from her face when someone smaller, thinner, walks by. I’ve seen how co-occurring conditions like anxiety, depression, or trauma can latch onto someone and deplete them of their energy, potential, and happiness. The most alarming thing is that she doesn’t look like the “stereotypical” person who would have an eating disorder. Consequently, many people are falling through the cracks in the eyes of medicine because they don’t “look” a certain way to fit the “standards” of an eating disorder. There are no standards. 

Eating disorders are reckless and spineless. They take everything they can, and just when you think they’ve had enough, they take more. But it’s not just your weight, time, or money. This time it’s your family, your friends, and your job. It’s your mindset telling you that you’re unworthy of getting better, and you now believe this is just the way of life. It’s not, and we know without a doubt that recovery is 100% possible.  

We often hear with conditions such as eating disorders, “I’m not sick enough, this isn’t that bad, I don’t need to invest that much time into fixing this.” But, unfortunately, anyone’s biggest barrier to recovery is acceptance, especially with this disease that is so centered around self-loathing and not feeling worthy enough.

Heed the healing words from one of our soulful recovery coaches, Patrick Fraser, “I know that some of you will think that you don’t really have a problem. We are not here to challenge that. If there is a part of you that understands that something you are going through is not right or healthy, the scariest thing is the longer that you go without treating it, you start to lose muscle mass in the very critical areas of your body – like your heart. That is incredibly difficult to reverse. The earlier you sit down with someone, the easier and shorter your recovery will be. You owe it to yourself to at least ask, “‘Is this actually a problem?”’ so that you can save yourself thousands of dollars in medical bills down the line. Life is hard enough. Meeting with us will help you see that you’re worthy of sharing your story, digging deep, and recovering from the depths of your worries, anxieties, and suffering.”

Thousands of people are starting recovery this very moment, are currently deep within their healing process, or have fully recovered and are now on their way to work or to grab a coffee with a friend. Why shouldn’t that be you, too? If you don’t have the time, ask yourself why. If you don’t have the money or insurance, Eating Disorder Solutions has options for that. You get to be on this beautiful planet, but you choose who you will be. No one else can do that for you. But, we are here to support and bridge that gap between who you are now and who you want to be soon. 

Whether or not you’re new to eating disorder challenges, taking a self-assessment can aid your self-awareness. If you’re up to it, try taking our eating disorder self-assessment or body dysmorphia self-assessment. Those are different conditions, but they can rapidly develop into life-threatening ones.

“You deserve to live your life as irrationally happy as possible. Whether you think your disorder is fluctuating, stable, unstable, simple, insanely difficult – if that inner voice in your heart is quietly saying, “‘something is wrong,”’ we will help you tap into that, we will help you heal that.”

If you or someone you love is struggling with an eating disorder, give Eating Disorder Solutions a chance to prove our effectiveness. You deserve to understand your brain, its patterns, and the sense of freedom you experience when you take back control of your mind and life. 

Take the step. 

Move forward. 



Contact us today or call a direct line to our attentive team at 855-808-4213.

With love,

Eating Disorder Solutions